When Change Happens

by Kristi on July 28, 2014 · 2 comments

in Change, Life Coaching

Change happens when your desire for something better becomes greater than your fear.

This statement probably never rang more true for me then when I decided to leave my job to pursue my passion for writing and, eventually, coaching. I can still remember sitting there at my desk after months and months of contemplation, about to give my boss my two weeks’ notice. I was terrified, but a deep desire had taken hold inside of me, and I had reached a point where I knew there was no more ignoring it. Moving forward and pursuing my dream had become the only option. 

Whether you’re contemplating leaving your job to pursue a passion, putting yourself back on the dating scene after a long hiatus, moving across the country to start fresh or stretching yourself in some other realm, change is scary.

It’s kind of like bungee jumping (I would imagine, I’ve actually not crazy enough to try it.) There you are, plunging off a steep cliff into the unknown. Sure, you’re relying on those who have gone before you telling you it’s no big deal and it’s actually kind of fun, but you still have no personal experience to gauge whether you’ll truly be ok. You’re depending on that recoil. That sweet exhilaration and freedom you’ll (supposedly) feel on the way back up, provided you survive.

So how do you work through the fear and push forward anyway?

Simple: Stay grounded to that inner desire. That is the driving force.

When the discomfort of not pursuing your dream becomes so unbearable that you can’t imagine not doing it, that’s when you become willing to push yourself out of your comfort zone.


That’s when you find the courage to buy the one way ticket, put in your two weeks, ask the guy out for fro-yo. 

Have patience and stay grounded to your desire.

Keep on keeping on, sister.




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Let’s chat.

by Kristi on July 25, 2014 · 0 comments

in coffee date

Hi friends!

How are things? So, it’s been a little while since I’ve written one of my coffee chat posts and I’m feeling kind of , well, chatty. :) No coffee though since it’s 8 pm on a Friday night. (Not that I’m above that.) Also, it’s 90 degrees and I’m sweating bullets. (Seriously, check out our weather forecast. I love that the current status is ‘Dust.’ Is that a thing? Apparently…)


So… just ice water for me tonight.

Let’s chat, shall we?

I feel bad complaining about the weather since 90% of the year it’s gorgeous here in AZ, but it’s been insanely hot for the past few weeks. It’s monsoon season, which means at least we’re getting some rain, but most days it’s just humid and it feels like the entire state is suffering from one big hot flash. It’s pretty unbearable. I’m convinced the high temps must burn our brain cells resulting in some sort of mass amnesia that causes us to forget about our dreadful summers by the time October rolls around since so many of us continue to live here year after year. I’m pretty sure this is the time of the year where every Arizonan dies a little bit inside… Can I come live with you for a couple months?

So, I’m not sure what the deal is, but for the past few years I’ve suffered from the end of the week blues. I know it’s the total opposite of what everyone else feels and I make an effort to celebrate and get excited when the back side of the week rolls around (TGIF and all that), but for some reason I always feel kind of down. I’m not sure if it’s because I work a lot of Saturdays so the weekend doesn’t really feel that special to me perhaps. Or maybe I’m just tired by the end of the week? Does anyone else feel this way? Is it just me?

Um. I’m headed to JAMAICA in 18 days! To say I’m crazy excited would be an understatement. I’ve never been to Jamaica before and I can’t wait to snorkel, go for sunset runs along the beach and just RELAX. I’m also psyched to have 6 whole days away from the dogs’ early morning routine (mostly because I finally get to SLEEP IN). The pups will be staying with my parents while I’m gone and, while I’ll enjoy my extra rest, I’m also 100% certain I’ll miss them like crazy and probably text my mom at least 10 times a day to check on them. “What are they up to? How did they sleep? Why aren’t you sending me any pics??? :(((”


(How could you not miss that face?)

Are you reading any good books this summer? I feel like this is one of the first times in forever that I’m not juggling like 5 different books at a time. I just started reading ‘A Return to Love’ by Marianne Williamson (an oldie but a goodie) and I’m about halfway through ‘I Can See Clearly Now’ by Dr. Wayne Dyer (which reads like a bunch of short stories, so it’s easy to pick up and put down). I usually gravitate toward personal growth stuff but I feel like I might need a good fiction novel for my trip.

Speaking of my trip, I still need to find a dress to wear to my friend’s wedding in Jamaica. I was hoping to try Rent the Runway but the longest rental option they have is 8 days and, since I’ll be traveling for 7, I feel like it will be a pretty tight squeeze to get the dress shipped back in time. (Unless I can send it from the resort?) I’m really wanting something short, sparkly and champagne a la Elizabeth’s gorgeous bridesmaid dresses. And I’m hoping not to spend a boatload. Any ideas??

On a random note, my coworker’s birthday is tomorrow and I’m going to surprise her on Monday with these cupcakes.



Also, she’s obsessed with cats. She has 11 of them. (But she’s totally normal, I swear.)

Anywho, I’m off to bed. Hope you’re having a lovely Friday night!

Anyone else suffer from end of the week blues? Do you miss your pets when you’re on vacation? Any good book recommendations? Know any not-so-crazy crazy cat ladies?



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